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OCD Hope Is On Your Side

Hope Is On Your Side

Shannon Shy Author

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Shannon Shy – Author & OCD Advocate

Hi everyone. Welcome to OvercomingOCD.net, the next step in my outreach to those who are affected by OCD! In 1997, I was diagnosed with a severe case of OCD while on active duty with the Marine Corps. Through treatment, trial and error, and a lot of hard work and frustration, I developed a strategy which allowed me to eventually got to the point where OCD does not affect my life. In 2009, I began my outreach with the publication of my first book, “It’ll be Okay”: How I Kept Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) from Ruining My Life (Authorhouse). The outreach experience in person, on Facebook, on Twitter, and with my second book “Hope Is On Your Side” (Tate Publishing) since then has been nothing short of tremendously rewarding and humbling. This website is intended to expand the audience.

Now, drumroll please . . . . . I would like to introduce my friends Lyndsee Hargett & Chrissie Hodges, who are helping me with this website. You can read about both Lyndsee and Chrissie’s stories and follow them daily as well. Let me just say that they are both incredible people who have dealt with much adversity, and are beacons of hope, strength, and courage for many.

Finally, please read the disclaimer at the bottom of this page. Additionally, while Lyndsee, Chrissie, and I are associated with various organizations, the views we express on this page do not necessarily represent the views of any organization of which either three of us are associated.

I often say that if my words help only one person, it is worth it. This site is intended to provide a sense of hope, motivation, support, and helpful information. Hopefully, one by one, this site will do that.

Peace, Shannon

‪#‎OvercomingOCD‬ – What are you going to do about it?

Okay, so you have OCD and it’s flaring up. What are you going to do about it? OCD will be perfectly happy if you decide that it is just to difficult to fight and you will just go along (miserably) to get along (terribly). Why give OCD the satisfaction? The courage and strength are inside you. Summon them. Let’s do this.
‪#‎OCD‬ can be defeated. I’m with you. Let’s go.

‪#‎OvercomingOCD‬ – Doubting the Doubt

I received an awesome question on the public side of this page from our friend Mallory. Perfect prompt for today’s message (while I am at the most awesome conference in the world – the International OCD Foundation annual conference in Chicago!)
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Mallory: “Did your OCD ever make you doubt your doubt? I noticed one thing you mentioned was that if there was even the slightest bit of doubt then treat it as OCD but can OCD also say “you’re only doubting because you don’t want it to be true. It’s not real doubt. You really did do that horrible act. You’re going to hell if you don’t (insert compulsion here).” So you’re basically doubting that you have legit doubts about the situation at hand. OCD is sinister.”
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My response: “Yes. It is the way OCD works. After I was diagnosed and started treatment, OCD did everything it could to prevent me from getting better. One of the things my psychologist told me when I started therapy in 1997 was to identify the intrusive thoughts; that is, identify when OCD is at play (so I could treat it as OCD). So when a thought would come and I would try to figure out whether it was an intrusive OCD thought, OCD would tell me that I could not be sure whether it was OCD or not so therefore I could not treat it as OCD. When I would continue trying to treat the thought as an OCD thought (in the midst of intense anxiety, of course), OCD would tell me that I was avoiding reality and pretending the thoughts were OCD because I didn’t want to admit the truth that I was a murderer or a pedophile. OCD would tell me that my strategy of allowing the thoughts to be in mind was my secret way of letting the thoughts be there because I wanted them and enjoyed them. When I would continue treating them as OCD thoughts, OCD would tell me that because I was still having intense anxiety it meant that my strategy was all screwed up and I was wasting my time, and on and on and on.
So what did I do?
I stayed the course. I framed the thoughts so I could allow them to be in my mind and be indifferent. I considered OCD to be a liar and therefore the thoughts were lies. I learned that OCD would never allow me to have certainty so my objective was not to extinguish the doubt, but rather to move forward despite the existence of doubt. That’s when I told myself that if I just suspected even slightly OCD was at play, I treated it as OCD. This sucked a lot of wind out of OCD. And this is key – Once I suspected OCD was at play, I treated the original thought and all related follow on thoughts (about the subject itself and how I was fighting OCD) as OCD thoughts. I liken it to the legal doctrine known as “Fruit of the Poisonous Tree,” which states If the source (the “tree”) of the evidence or evidence itself is tainted, then anything gained (the “fruit”) from it is tainted as well.
The beauty was that I didn’t have to change my approach no matter how many times OCD changed the equation and inserted more doubt. It worked.
Hope this helps.
‪#‎OCD‬ can be defeated. I’m with you. Let’s go.

‪#‎OvercomingOCD‬ – It’s How You Look At

OCD will try to convince you that the only way for you to get relief is to stop fighting and give in. When you do, OCD only gets stronger. It makes you frustrated, angry and sad to be in this torturous loop. Change your perspective. It’s how you look at it. Find relief by fighting. Find a sense of relief by the fact that you are fighting. Be empowered because you are fighting. You don’t have to have to be perfect at it. Just try your best and keep trying your best. It’s a journey.
‪#‎OCD‬ can be defeated. I’m with you. Let’s go.

Disclaimer: The purpose of this website is to provide a sense of hope, motivation, support, and  helpful information for those affected by obsessive-compulsive disorder (and other disorders as may be mentioned from time to time).   Neither Shannon Shy nor Lyndsee Hargett are mental health professionals.  Any messages posted by Shannon or Lyndsee on this site are not intended to be and shall not be considered or relied upon as mental health or medical professional advice or treatment.  All persons who think they may have a mental disorder are advised and encouraged to seek the care of a mental health professional.  If any person is in a crisis situation or otherwise in need of immediate emergency care, please dial 9-1-1 (or the emergency number where you live.)

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