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OCD Hope Is On Your Side

Hope Is On Your Side

Shannon Shy Author

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Our Hope Forum Has Begun!

Shannon Shy – Author & OCD Advocate

Hi everyone. Welcome to OvercomingOCD.net, the next step in my outreach to those who are affected by OCD! In 1997, I was diagnosed with a severe case of OCD while on active duty with the Marine Corps. Through treatment, trial and error, and a lot of hard work and frustration, I developed a strategy which allowed me to eventually got to the point where OCD does not affect my life. In 2009, I began my outreach with the publication of my first book, “It’ll be Okay”: How I Kept Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) from Ruining My Life (Authorhouse). The outreach experience in person, on Facebook, on Twitter, and with my second book “Hope Is On Your Side” (Tate Publishing) since then has been nothing short of tremendously rewarding and humbling. This website is intended to expand the audience.

Now, drumroll please . . . . . I would like to introduce my friends Lyndsee Hargett & Chrissie Hodges, who are helping me with this website. You can read about both Lyndsee and Chrissie’s stories and follow them daily as well. Let me just say that they are both incredible people who have dealt with much adversity, and are beacons of hope, strength, and courage for many.

Finally, please read the disclaimer at the bottom of this page. Additionally, while Lyndsee, Chrissie, and I are associated with various organizations, the views we express on this page do not necessarily represent the views of any organization of which either three of us are associated.

I often say that if my words help only one person, it is worth it. This site is intended to provide a sense of hope, motivation, support, and helpful information. Hopefully, one by one, this site will do that.

Peace, Shannon

“#OvercomingOCD – A Chance

You: “I just can’t believe that it is OCD. It feels too real. What if it IS NOT OCD?”

Me: “Why look at it that way? What if it IS OCD? Think of the possibilities in your life if you took a chance.”

#OCD can be defeated. I’m with you. Let’s go.

#OvercomingOCD – Handling Triggers

I was asked how I handled triggers. Bottomline, I implemented my strategy when the triggers generated the thoughts. I identified the thoughts as OCD, allowed them to be in my mind, and resisted performing the compulsion. I reminded myself it was possible to get better and I motivated myself by continually thinking about the reasons why I wanted to get better. The fight against OCD is as much about perspective and attitude as anything. Rather than fearing the triggers (whether it was one I expected or one hiding around the corner), I looked at them as opportunities to get well. I know this is not easy, but that doesn’t mean we can’t do it. Stay in the fight. Recovery is a journey, not a quick walk in the park.

#OCD can be defeated. I’m with you. Let’s go.

#OvercomingOCD – Questioning Who You Love and Who You Are

Our friend Lauren asked the question below on the public side of this page in response to my post about self-confidence and self-esteem. She has graciously agreed to let me use her question as a prompt for today’s message in hopes that it may help others. (I absolutely love the selflessness of the awesome people who follow this page.)

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Lauren: “Thanks for this. What would you say about when the ones and things you love/d are the object of your obsessions? When it feels like you’re not sure what you like, believe, etc. etc.? I definitely have some mixed issues going on here.”
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My response:

Thank you for the question, Lauren. I actually hear from a lot of people who struggle with this theme of obsession. It could be thoughts about whether you love (or hate) your spouse, significant other, friends, or children; Or that you have friends who are gay/lesbian and you have thoughts that you may be homophobic or that you have friends of a different race and you have thoughts that you may be a racist, or it could be that you question your Faith, and on and on. And to top things off, when you get around the people involved in the obsessions or who care about the same things you do (like religion), you have a compulsion to tell them about your thoughts hoping that it may make you feel better, but then you are afraid how they will react to this information. These obsessions/compulsions can basically apply to anyone or anything that you naturally love or love to do. Many people tell me that they have this overwhelming sense that they are just a big fake and a fraud. And maybe the most frustrating thing is that the sufferer doesn’t know how much of it, if any, is OCD related. I mean, after all, everyone has random unexplainable thoughts, right? So what in the world to do. . . . .

Now that I have set the issue up, let me give my normal caveat — I’m not a therapist. I’m jus a guy who had OCD really bad and, with help, figured a way out of the dark forest. With that said, in my own battle with OCD, once I developed my strategy, I tried to stick to my strategy. When I was in the middle of the storm, I tried to slow it down and break it down. I tried to figure out whether OCD was at play or not. In one sense, the way you posed the question, answers the question. You described the thought as an obsession. Yes, it is confusing, because I think most people naturally and randomly have such thoughts. BUT, here is the difference, and this applies to any naturally occurring thought or emotion (such as guilt). When the thought starts acting like OCD – intrusive, repetitive, unwanted thoughts causing anxiety and leading to some mental or physical compulsion — we have a pretty good idea that it is OCD and we can treat it as such.

For me, that meant, even though I was still uncertain that it was OCD, I would allow the thoughts to be in my mind (I became indifferent) and I would resist (as best I could) performing the compulsion. I kept my plan simple and I defaulted to the plan, no matter how much OCD changed. Bottomline, you know who you love and you know your character. The rest belongs to OCD. I hate this disorder. Hang in there.

#OCD can be defeated. I’m with you. Let’s go.

Disclaimer: The purpose of this website is to provide a sense of hope, motivation, support, and  helpful information for those affected by obsessive-compulsive disorder (and other disorders as may be mentioned from time to time).   Neither Shannon Shy nor Lyndsee Hargett are mental health professionals.  Any messages posted by Shannon or Lyndsee on this site are not intended to be and shall not be considered or relied upon as mental health or medical professional advice or treatment.  All persons who think they may have a mental disorder are advised and encouraged to seek the care of a mental health professional.  If any person is in a crisis situation or otherwise in need of immediate emergency care, please dial 9-1-1 (or the emergency number where you live.)

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